Masturbation is a normal healthy part of sexuality in people single or otherwise it’s as normal as the air you breathe; some people are still caught up in the myth about masturbation:
The most common reasons adults give for masturbating are to relieve sexual tension achieve sexual pleasure have sex when partners are unavailable, Many people think that others masturbate only when they do not have a sex partner. But that is not true. In fact, people who have regular sex partners are more likely to masturbate than people without sex partners alone.
Masturbation is often thought of as a solo act, many people also enjoy masturbation together, which is called Mutual masturbation: (the act of two or more people masturbating in each other presence)
Masturbation is a feel good verb and it does feel good for those who have mastered the art, or at least attempt to try to discover what it is they like about touching themselves. It can help us explore the types of touch we like the most and help us learn how to get excited and how to reach orgasm. It’s not only about inserting your finger into your vagina or rubbing your clitoris it’s about making love and exploring your body; many women gets an orgasm with just playing with their nipples.
Lube plays a big part in masturbation, the wetter the better, it doesn’t matter what type of lube, water base or silicone whatever works for you.
For men performing masturbation, I can sum that up in 1 second, lube, 5 fingers and good porn done!
For some ladies rubbing directly may be too sensitive, try rubbing around the area instead of a more indirect contact. You will learn to know how and where to touch yourself for the best feeling the more you play. Get to know your own body, what feels good, what doesn’t etc.
You may want to use/try a vibrating sex toy to stimulate yourself by gently passing the head of the vibrator around the clitoral area, if it’s too sensitive turn down the speed of the vibrations. There are many vibrators to choose from, you may want to try different toys on different days with different speeds and vibrations. Always use a lubricant when using sex toys to ensure you don’t cause yourself any harm.
The removable shower head is also very sensually stimulating. If you can regulate the flow of water find a setting that gives you a steady stream of water building up to a strong jet and move it around letting the water stimulate your senses.
Don’t be afraid to love and discover what it is you love about you!
Is there a difference between having a mind shattering orgasm and squirting? Some think squirting is a myth and happens only in Porn.
Let’s break it down a bit, explaining the difference between both.
Female ejaculation (aka "squirting") involves women releasing fluids through their urethra during sexual excitement or orgasm, keep in mind that this is a bed soaking mess, meanwhile the lubrication you produced when you’re turned on is a small amount of whitish fluid that occurs during or just before you climax.
Let’s go back to female ejaculation aka squirting/gushing
Every woman should be able to squirt if they take the time to know their body, with the right stimulation mental or physical with or without penetration, it is possible, in theory. It may be more difficult for some because of her physical makeup: weak pelvic floor muscles, inability to properly relax, etc. It takes practice to perfect this trick and learn how to relax properly and go with the flow, so to speak. It is also not a bad idea for you to practice this on your own — then you can get the gist of it without feeling shy about the whole pee thing.
The next step is to try to induce the female ejaculation. This consists of keeping aroused, and firmly stimulating your G-spot (G-spot is area in the front wall of the vagina which is alleged to produce an extremely intense orgasm when stimulated). with either your fingers or a firm toy with a curved end, whatever you prefer, until you feel you’re ready.
When involving your partner you can use his penis or a toy to stimulate your g-spot, but it's probably a good idea to practice where you can a) see and feel precisely what you are doing and; b) use something direct and firm to keep the pressure even, and you both are control.
If your doing it correctly you’ll probably feel the desire to urinate, but if you keep this feeling alive and keep going, it will eventually turn into a very intense sexual feeling, once you’re at that point, more than likely your ready to ejaculate. Whatever happens, you need to keep yourself open and relaxed and let it flow. It may help if you push on your pelvic muscles if you feel it coming on but nothing seems to be happening — this will push it out.
Orgasm is a physical reflex, usually a pleasurable one, when the muscles that were tightened during sexual arousal relax and the body returns to its pre-arousal state. During sexual arousal there is increased blood flow to the genitals and tensing of muscles throughout the body and particularly in the genitals. Orgasm reverses this process through a series of rhythmic contractions. For women, contractions occur in the lower part of the vagina, in the uterus, anus, and pelvic floor.
So incense to have the ability to fully enjoy your body either by regular orgasm or female ejaculation embrace it and run with it. (Literally)
As I lay here with my eyes closed and my toys ready my eyes glazed over fantasizing about Mr Mandingo doing the thing I dreamt of most, just when I was about to have the biggest…. “MOM! Why is your door locked?” and just like that it ended!
Just like me most women sit around and fantasize about very naughty things. When it comes to dreaming up the sauciest of fantasies, and they don’t bother limiting themselves to traditional in the bedroom missionary or doggie style The top 10 female sex fantasies covers everything from fetishes to threesomes, and you may be surprised to know that many women want to do more than just fantasize. Some women spend just as much time hoping their men will help put their female sex fantasies into practice.
Your fantasy is always with you, playing in your head over and over again like an old rerun movie but this comes with a twist of Desires that won’t stop. If you are imprisoned in any way—by your religion, your partner etc. your fantasies become your freedom. Sometimes your ability to fantasize is the only freedom you have.
But what if you make your fantasy into a reality!
The usual fantasy for men is a threesome and some women would go along with the act to appease their male partner; but women are catching up as it becomes more acceptable for us to admit we’d like to be with two hot men at once doubling our fun and pleasure.
Having sex somewhere other than the comfort of your own home is a really big turn on. Having sex outside in the open is something a lot of women are too shy to do but think of regularly. Sex can get repetitive in long relationships and changing the scenery can help spice things up. Public places indoors are also part of the fantasy; airplanes, public bathrooms, dressing rooms are all places many women have thought about having sex.
Don’t be scared if you get caught, you can just move the activity to the next public place you find, or even outside. Being scared is all part of what makes it so hot!
Another fantasy for women is making a sex video, While men may be more visual, women are interested in porn too women reach their peak arousal after just two minutes into an erotic film. After you watch it, though, make sure to hide it safely or quickly delete it.
Sharing a fantasy with a stranger? Here's an easy one both men and women enjoy. There's something sexy and mysterious about anonymity. An easy way to get in on the trend: Turn yourselves into strangers. No matter how long you've known your partner, pretend you don't know him at all. Choose different clothes, new hairstyles, different personalities, and different names. Start by meeting at a bar, then take your new friend home—and stay in character the entire time.
There are tons of fantasies to try with your significant other. Shares your desires, experiment, and discover what works best for you both as a couple. You may surprise yourself—and get closer to your partner in the process.
Sometimes it just isn’t going to happen. We’ve tried telling you, but you rarely listened. Guys love a challenge. It’s in your nature. If we tell you that we can’t always get there and tonight is just one of those nights, it’s like we’ve offered you the ultimate challenge and its game on. And You Won’t Quit, Yes, that’s kind of hot but there are only so many positions we can try before we start to chafe. Being the gentleman that you are, you’re most likely abiding by the “Ladies First” rule. We feel bad watching your face scrunch up and become contorted as you try to last long enough for us to reach that sweet release that will never come. We don’t want to hurt your feelings or make you feel insecure about not getting us off. So we start breathing heavily, grinding harder up against you, whispering your name as well as God’s, grasping the sheets as we moan louder and then loudly act out the grand finale so you can do the same. No one’s feelings are hurt, you’re happy for obvious reasons and we’re happy to cuddle and fall asleep. It’s a win, win.
Although faking may be easier for women, research shows that it is not exclusive to them. A study in the Journal of Sex Research of 281 students from the University of Kansas found that 67% of women had pretended to have orgasms, but so had 28% of men. Men, like women, faked orgasms to prevent their partner feeling inadequate, but their main reason was that sex was taking too long; they were tired and wanted to stop. More people in this study reported difficulty in having an orgasm because their partner was unskilled (25% of women and 7% of men).
No matter how advanced your sexual prowess, the average man can’t help but wonder: Did she actually get off, or was the moaning merely a show? And your suspicion is warranted, considering research published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior has recently identified six different reasons why women fake orgasms. But before your ego becomes too bruised, know that her pleasure—or lack thereof—isn’t always due to your skillset. We’ve got the details on what’s keeping her from climax, as well as moves you can master to upgrade your performance.
tip: Steal a move from her playbook. Research published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that 94 percent of the females reported hitting their peak through clitoral play. What’s more, roughly 74 percent cited the sides of their clitoris as an O-zone, while 64 percent claimed they could climax through stimulation below the clitoris. So if the in-and-out motion of the ocean isn’t getting the job done, call in some reinforcement from your fingers.
tip: Don’t neglect her girls during the bump and grind. Tempt her by tracing your fingertips lightly over the tops of her breasts, and then work your way toward the center. “Her nipples are most sensitive when erect,” says Emily Morse, host of the Sex With Emily radio show. So use your tongue to gently trace full circles around her areola. Once erect, lick the tip, blow, and repeat.
And let’s face it: there are enough conspiracy theories relating to our sexual motives without getting paranoid about our orgasmic or anorgasmic capacities. Ultimately, everyone wants to feel good with the person they are getting into bed with. The Big O might certainly help.
I’m going to take a different spin on my topic this month I’m going to incorporate several Q & A... I’ve had couples coming to me to discuss their private lives, because they want to truly give their marriage a fighting chance, I’m not a certified coach but what I have under my belt is experience...
Quick synapses on my past married and a house wife for 19 years house raise my children and decided to start my Savage Desires business “From house wife to sex toy distributor”
The biggest complaint that destroys some marriages is communication, everyone always talks about the good of the sexual revolutions but nobody ever addresses the issues on communication. Women who expect men to read their minds, women who expect their men to wait months or weeks because they are mad for whatever reasons and women who think oral sex is disgusting but have no problem demanding it
This past valentine I’ve sold several gift packages to married men who was buying gifts for both girlfriends and their wives. These men have quite the stories of why they cheat.
Because of that reason i decided to discuss putting back some spice into the bedroom, and to unleash your savage desires!
As women we struggle with issues such as low libido, stress, and menopause, among other things, so let’s start with my most popular questions from couples and women.
Q: We have young children, and I’m too tired for sex after I’ve put them to bed
A: Make the time "How important is sex and, because they're related, how important is your marriage?" Everyone says they're busy; Things that are important should come first. Turn of scandal or empire and turn each other on after the kiddies have gone to bed, If you have to do a booty call while the kids are asleep make that effort or make a date that morning so you both can think about it, and each other all day.
Q: How do I keep my partner interested in me on a continual basis?
A: Visual appeal is extremely important for men. While women love through their brain, men love through their vision. It is imperative to keep your sex quotient up. Refrain from being complacent after marriage. Groom yourself, put in some efforts to keep yourself physically and mentally fit and energetic. The scent of a woman is the biggest turn on for a man. Wear clothes, shoes and makeup that suit your taste and personality, and also his taste at the same time. However, do not overdo the makeup. Men like natural looks. Remember the efforts you put in, in the first few months of your relationship? All these efforts will also make you feel confident and good about you. Don’t forget his emotional and intellectual needs, Respect him though men may seem to be sexually oriented, at the top of any man’s wish list, is respect from his partner make him feel, not only through your words, but actions too, that you value his presence in your life. Try something different - Most couples tend to stop doing the deed due to being purely bored of the normal routine. There's a simple fix to that, check around online, figure out a new way to go about it, make it interesting again. Even try different positions if it'll help. Get out of the bedroom.
Q: How can I ask him to incorporate a toy into the bedroom?
A: Sex toys are a great way to explore new sexual adventures; it definitely is a touchy subject when your other half have never thought of incorporating a toy in the bedroom, where to start and how to approach the subject? You could approach it as a team effort rather than you wanting it. For example, you could say “I was reading about a couple toys called the, we vibe toy and it would be fun to try it together” or “it would be fun if you tried a vibrator on me” something along that line. You can also approach it like a fantasy. Tell him you wanted to share a fantasy you had with him and explain your fantasy of him using a toy on you, how he’d use it and how it would make you feel. Put it in the context of him being an active participant. We have to let him know that they toy isn’t replacing him just adding to your bedroom play.
Keep the momentum going, remember you’re in this for the long run, and don’t want our partners claiming it’s cheaper to keep her and having his cake and eating it too.